GENDER DEFIANT
A weekly essay series by writers raising trans kids.

L A T E S T

01
Oct
Let’s Get To a Minute From Now!

Let’s Get To a Minute From Now!

Gay rights happened so fast, it gives me hope for wide trans acceptance
4 min read
16
Sep
How Do You Hold On to Good Feelings?

How Do You Hold On to Good Feelings?

An ally asks. Parents of trans kids answer.
4 min read
03
Sep
Tiny Useful Fact #4

Tiny Useful Fact #4

Boymode and Girlmode, explained.
3 min read
27
Aug
The Beautiful Dream of Nobody Cares

The Beautiful Dream of Nobody Cares

Two gay men, decades ago, blew the doors off my assumptions. It's like they were sent from the future, where I had a trans kid
4 min read
13
Aug
Summer Camp: Three Uneasy Pieces

Summer Camp: Three Uneasy Pieces

Recent news made me revisit my kid’s time at the famous arts camp. I wouldn’t wish that culture on any family
5 min read
06
Aug
Transvestigating Women’s Tennis

Transvestigating Women’s Tennis

Far from ”protecting” players, mandatory genetic “sex testing” has ominous implications for women and kids
5 min read
31
Jul
Denny and Me: Guest writer J Brooke

Denny and Me: Guest writer J Brooke

You often hear that queer people have chosen family. But sometimes, your queer family includes the one you were born into
8 min read
23
Jul
Trans Parent, Anti-Hero

Trans Parent, Anti-Hero

I can’t persuade my trans teen to leave the country.
5 min read
16
Jul
In Quiet Search of Freedom: Guest Writer Jess Drucker

In Quiet Search of Freedom: Guest Writer Jess Drucker

I thought I was going to spend my career helping queer people build adventurous lives abroad. Instead, I have a front-row seat to something I wasn’t expecting: the courage of parents seeking safety for their trans kids
7 min read
09
Jul
Some Difficult Things to Know How to Do

Some Difficult Things to Know How to Do

What was I supposed do with cherished photographs of my trans kid before they transitioned?
5 min read