A Stranger in the House
In their dementia, my parents don't know they are destroying their relationship with their trans granddaughter. Every minute I am with them is an agony
My Kind of Gender Reveal Party
Why this cis mom changed her pronouns
Coming Out, Like a Flower
Don’t we have better things to do than tell folks they have to be someone or something they aren’t?
In a Shell
When the egg breaks there is no going back; there is your life before and your life after. It’s the coming-out metaphor—but parents live it, too
What I Need Defending From
Trans children are not dangerous. The dangerous people in my life are the ones I have slept beside.
Alone with My Child’s Childhood
When my trans teen said “don’t send me photos,” it felt like she ripped up our shared past
YOU’VE GOT THIS. (How Will You Spend Inaguration Day?)
We here at Gender Defiant prefer to think of it as Martin Luther King Day.
Election Disbelief
When I woke up to his win on the morning of November 6, 2024, I felt physically ill. He had demonized my child, used her as a pawn in his divide and conquer strategy, and it had worked
My Trans Child And I: Two and the Same
While I was pregnant, folks failed to understand that my and my baby’s well-being are intertwined. The same holds true now that they are a teen
My Daughter is a Girl Because She Knows She is a Girl
Right now, politicians are screaming a lie that transness is abnormal. But eventually, we—parents, teachers, neighbors, lawmakers—will trust our children
Do Not Assume my Veteran Husband is MAGA
Why would MAGA think a career military veteran would support a president who does not believe in the Constitution he risked his life to defend?
Guest writer Ashley Musselwhite: “Headspace in a Red State”
Moving a gay teen out of the city might seem counterintuitive. But in rural Kentucky, my gender nonconforming child found peace, and her true self